Relationships
Articles exploring the whole area of relationships, love and sex.
Friday, 12 March 2010 15:22 | and posted in Relationships
At the beginning of 2010 we invited the boys to anonomously submit questions to us that they would like our female members to answer and we invited the girls to anonomously submit questions that they wanted our male members to answer. Today we unveiled these questions in our Boys Only! and Girls Only! discussion groups.
Monday, 08 March 2010 11:00 | and posted in Relationships
When you "fall in love" everything changes. Your carefully ordered world is turned upside down and you'll suddenly find yourself acting in ways you've never done before!
Such is the falling in love experience that you'll suddenly find yourself fluent in the majority of the five love languages. Unexpectedly you'll be buying roses or chocolates, offering to carry bags, hugging, kissing and holding hands as often as you can, giving your date as much undivided attention as humanly possible and compliments will simply flow out of your mouth with ease.
Friday, 05 March 2010 02:00 | and posted in Relationships
As a child or teenager you rely on your parents to supply the majority of your emotional need of love. However, depending on which love language they speak you may or not be receiving the love you need from them.
For example, if your dad speaks compliments and your mum hugs while you speak gifts, then unless your parents recognise this you may start to think your parent's don't love you very much because they hardly ever give you gifts.
Wednesday, 03 March 2010 15:07 | and posted in Relationships
The fifth and final love language is that of compliments. Here love is received as you notice and affirm a person and their achievements. It's as if your carefully chosen compliments literally pour in love through a person's ears!! This is the verbal love language and for a compliment lover to receive love they need you to say it.
Monday, 01 March 2010 14:06 | and posted in Relationships
The power of hugs to communicate love is well documented. From research into the social affects on unhugged babies in orphanages to every romantic movie ever made. You may have also noticed that in times of tragedy or crisis our human instinct is to hug.
People whose primary love language is hugs need a constant supply of hugs in order to feel loved. To hug lovers a hug not only touches them physically, it also touches who they are inside. To withhold hugs or other forms of physical touch is to communicate rejection rather then love. It's like the physical distance between you and a hug lover is equal to the emotional distance between you.
Monday, 25 January 2010 15:00 | and posted in Relationships
Action lovers receive love most through people doing things for them: from driving them places to cleaning the house, from helping them out with homework to teaching them how to ski.
The action language can be misinterpreted to mean doing stuff so the person you're loving doesn't get to do anything but sit with their feet up! Sometimes it will, but love is often most communicated to action-lovers when you serve them in something they couldn't or are unable to do. E.g., cooking dinner when they're really stressed and have no time to do it, teaching someone how to take really good photos or offering to put up a shelf. Remember, action lovers love to be active themselves!
Friday, 15 January 2010 08:28 | and posted in Relationships
To love someone well means to give of yourself to them: your time and focus, your energy, your physical presence and touch, your words of affirmation. All five love languages require us to give, yet for some people receiving a physical gift speaks loudest. For Gift lovers receiving a gift is a visible symbol of your love for them that you just can't beat.
The way people desire to be loved is the way they express love. This makes gift lovers the easiest love language to spot as you will tend to receive lots of good gifts from them and not just at birthdays and Christmas but all year round.
Wednesday, 13 January 2010 09:46 | and posted in Relationships
"Look at me daddy, look at me." "Watch me draw daddy." "Do dancing with me daddy." My daughter's love language is attention.
Often it is easier to identify love languages in small children. They are so honest and unadulterated and openly default to their primary language. So even though my daughter's only three years old, her love language is obvious. What she desires is to (1) know that she is my focus and (2) to do activities she enjoys with me.
Monday, 11 January 2010 17:22 | and posted in Relationships
When I'm on holiday abroad I feel like an ignorant Brit.* I only speak English and I assume/hope that everyone I meet knows it too or at least knows enough for me to get by. But we all know that not everyone does speak English and that there will come a time in life when you’ll end up doing the cringe-worthy thing of talking very loudly and slowly to a French-speaking waiter while miming a drinking motion with your pinkie sticking out: “A - cup - of - tea - siv - voo – play.” I shudder to even think about it!!!!