Wednesday, 13 January 2010 09:46 | and posted in Relationships
"Look at me daddy, look at me." "Watch me draw daddy." "Do dancing with me daddy." My daughter's love language is attention.
Often it is easier to identify love languages in small children. They are so honest and unadulterated and openly default to their primary language. So even though my daughter's only three years old, her love language is obvious. What she desires is to (1) know that she is my focus and (2) to do activities she enjoys with me.
To love someone whose primary love language is attention you need to learn to focus completley on them. Turn off the TV, put down your mobile, close the laptop and tune in to them. Make lots of eye contact and demonstrate you are listening to them. This doesn't have to be for long periods, even pausing while doing something to briefly give them your undivided attention will communicate love to them.
Attention lovers will also receive your love through doing things and going places with you. This isn't so much about the activity, but about the emotional connection that's made by devoting time to be together.
Also important to many attention lovers is quality conversation. If you like deep and meaningfuls you potentially talk this love language. To express your love to an attention lover through quality conversation you will need to learn to not only listen well but also to talk about how you're feeling and what's going on inside of you. This doesn't come easy for many of us, but then learning another language is never easy!
Based upon Dr Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages.